Love-Hate Rollercoaster

Ever wondered why we feel so deeply connected, or, so angry on same person ?
 It might be more than just emotions,

it's a battle between 3 forces in our mind!

[ according to  Lacan's theory ]

For example :

Meet Fatima. 

She met Tim at a coffee shop. He was perfect 😍 charming, funny, loved cats... and yes, even adored her cat

what more could she want, right? She thought, ‘This is it. He’s the one!’

But then, one day, Tim sent her a picture of his cat... and it was wearing a tiny, sparkly tutu.

 Yes, a tutu.

Now, Fatima was in trouble. 

Her mind shifted from her Imaginary register ,

where Tim was her perfect, cat-loving soulmate to the Real. 

And in the Real, a tutu on a cat was a bit tooo much Unusual. Who was this man with a tutu-wearing cat ? what is this????

You see, she was caught between the Symbolic i.e society tells you your love must be "normal" like all and "sophisticated" and 

the Imaginary, where cats just don’t wear tutus. 

The more she thought about it, the more she realized: 

problem  wasn’t about the tutu. It was about her fantasy of perfect love crumbling under reality of truth before her

She laughed, took a deep breath, and realized that Tim—and his tutu-wearing cat......were a package deal. 

She was free to accept him, or swipe left. It is her Choice

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Psychology Concepts :

1. Symbolic Register:

   This is about the rules of society. It’s how we think we’re supposed to act or what’s considered normal. For example, society tells us what’s the “perfect” way to be in a relationship. In the story, when Tim sent the picture of his cat in a tutu, it didn’t fit the usual “normal” idea of love, which threw Fatima off.

2. Imaginary Register:

   This is where we build our fantasies. It’s how we imagine things should be, especially in relationships. Fatima imagined Tim as her perfect match, someone who loved cats just like she did. The Imaginary is all about what we wish things were like, but sometimes these fantasies get challenged, like when Tim’s cat showed up in a tutu. That’s when things get complicated!

3. Real Register:

   The Real is the part of life that we can’t explain or control. It’s raw and messy and doesn’t fit into neat categories. When Fatima saw the tutu-wearing cat, it was unexpected and threw her fantasy of perfect love into chaos. The Real is all the things that don’t fit our fantasies and that can sometimes feel hard to accept.

Why These Concepts Matter:

• Love and hate aren’t just emotions. They are shaped by the way we see things, the rules we follow, and the things we can’t control.

• Love is often about what we want to believe in relationships, while hate happens when we’re faced with something unexpected or outside of our control.

In simple , 

we all build ideal relationships in our minds, but sometimes reality doesn’t match up, which can make us feel confused, frustrated, or even angry.

This helps us understand that love and hate are more than just feelings

👉 they are shaped by how we imagine things, 

👉 how society tells us things should be, and 

👉 what happens when life doesn’t fit that image.

Dear Readers

Ever had a ‘tutu moment’ in your Life ?

Did anything broke your fantasy of perfect love? 

Drop your  love-hate story in the comments, and follow for more mind-blowing insights...