✨ A Teen’s Guide to the Crazy, Beautiful, Confusing Thing Called Love
🔺 So What Is Love, Really?
Ever felt butterflies in your stomach, fireworks in your brain, and a weird mix of "yay" and "what if?" in your heart? That, my friend, is love knocking on your door—wearing different outfits.
A brainy guy named Robert Sternberg came up with a cool idea: Love is like a triangle with three corners, each one showing a different side of what it means to care deeply about someone. Here’s the scoop:
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Intimacy 💜 – Like whispering secrets to the moon. It's when your souls seem to speak the same language.
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Passion 💙 – Sparks flying, stomach flipping, heart skipping—a lightning storm of feels.
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Commitment 💚 – The promise that you’ll be there—even when the skies go grey and ALL social Media trends fade.
Each part is important. Take one away, and your love triangle starts wobbling like a lopsided pizza slice 🍕.
🎨 Love Comes in Flavors
Not every relationship has all three sides of the triangle. That’s why love can show up as different "flavors" or combinations:
💘 Types of Love - Yaa this is oversimplifying something complex BUT....
1. Nonlove
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❌ No intimacy, no passion, no commitment.
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➤ Feels like: A stranger at the bus stop — no spark, no depth, no strings attached.
2. Liking
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✅ Intimacy only.
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➤ Feels like: A cozy blanket — warm friendship, but no butterflies or “forever” vibes.
3. Infatuation
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✅ Passion only.
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➤ Feels like: Firecrackers — bright, loud, and over too fast.
4. Empty Love
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✅ Commitment only.
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➤ Feels like: A locked diary — it’s there, but there’s no story inside.
5. Romantic Love
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✅ Intimacy + Passion.
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❌ No commitment.
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➤ Feels like: A mixtape of late-night talks and electric touches — but missing the anchor.
6. Companionate Love
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✅ Intimacy + Commitment.
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❌ No passion.
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➤ Feels like: Peanut butter and jelly — sweet, dependable, but not spicy.
7. Fatuous Love
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✅ Passion + Commitment.
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❌ No intimacy.
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➤ Feels like: A rollercoaster built too fast — fun but shaky.
8. Consummate Love 💯
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✅ Intimacy + Passion + Commitment.
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➤ Feels like: The full-course meal — heart, heat, and holding on through the chaos.
🌱 Growing Love: It’s Like Caring for a Plant
Love isn’t just about falling—it’s about growing. It needs light (passion), water (intimacy), and strong roots (commitment). Miss one, and your love might wilt. But tend to all three? You’ll have a garden, not just a rose.
🧠 Why Bother? What’s In It for You?
Even if you're not dating yet, knowing about this love triangle can:
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Help you spot the real thing vs. a social media fantasy.
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Show when you’re carrying the whole triangle alone—and that’s not fair to you.
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Teach you to communicate clearly in friendships and relationships.
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Make you feel seen and respected, because love should never feel like a test you’re failing.
👁️ Truth Bomb: Love Is Messy. And That’s Okay.
Love doesn’t always fit neatly into a box—or a triangle. It grows, shrinks, shifts, and sometimes disappears like a ghost in fog. That doesn’t mean it wasn’t real. It just means it was human.
Like a paradox, love is simple and complicated. It lifts you up and sometimes lets you down. But every version of love teaches you something—about who you are, what you need, and how deeply you can feel.
🧊 Final Thought:
Build Triangles, Not Traps
Think of love like a triangle. If one corner breaks, it might still stand—but wobbly.
Build all three corners strong.
Be the kind of partner you’d want.
And remember:
You are not made to chase love.
You are made to create it—with care, courage, and your whole, wild heart.
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